# Shame and Guilt MOC #counselling #therapist #life #self #emotions #differentiation A common theme encountered in therapy. #Juliana said: *Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad.* (A good book: [[Daring Greatly How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead]]) Related Topics: - [[Bullying]] - Loneliness [[On Loneliness MOC]] - Biblical Theology [[Index for Spirituality]] - [[020 Psychotherapy Index]] - [[Book Notes from The Velvet Rage]] - [[Daring Greatly How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead]] - [[27-01-2021 Thur]] - [[How to manage shame]] ---- - ![[Chapter 5 - Contemporary Psychodynamic Theories on Depression#^748fd8]] - [Notes for "deconstructing shame and guilt and opening space for reconciliation through apology and forgiveness"](evernote:///view/463671/s5/6cfb913a-4046-4e9f-8d03-0a364a1b859d/6cfb913a-4046-4e9f-8d03-0a364a1b859d/) - [26th Solution Focus Workshop on Grief](evernote:///view/463671/s5/661f2f52-5b63-4515-9548-07d0d7cfa473/661f2f52-5b63-4515-9548-07d0d7cfa473/) - "_Separating the shame and the guilt. The difference between doing it and I am it."_ - [C20200422: Book Notes: Bullying Scars](evernote:///view/463671/s5/428b3b57-a708-4cc2-933e-a592a06e33eb/428b3b57-a708-4cc2-933e-a592a06e33eb/), [C20200425: Book notes: Bullying. The child's view](evernote:///view/463671/s5/9fee2646-344b-4e24-826c-2cedba33d198/9fee2646-344b-4e24-826c-2cedba33d198/) - Victim of bully experience shame. “Being difference from the norm, they experience as something is wrong with them" - [C202003130819: Systemic Group Supervision on 12 March 2020](evernote:///view/463671/s5/9dc4401f-170b-42ee-96dc-29466195d4ac/9dc4401f-170b-42ee-96dc-29466195d4ac/) - [Notes for "deconstructing shame and guilt and opening space for reconciliation through apology and forgiveness”](evernote:///view/463671/s5/6cfb913a-4046-4e9f-8d03-0a364a1b859d/6cfb913a-4046-4e9f-8d03-0a364a1b859d/)  - [202007152004: Patient become sick to save parents from experiencing shame](evernote:///view/463671/s5/427789c4-2446-4f01-98ed-61e5ee35eb4a/427789c4-2446-4f01-98ed-61e5ee35eb4a/) - [Filial Piety (孝) in Chinese Culture](evernote:///view/463671/s5/2a02c8c7-247f-459d-ade2-61a829b63947/2a02c8c7-247f-459d-ade2-61a829b63947/) - Failure to live up to expectations can bring shame - [202008191814: How to reduce Shame and Guilt](evernote:///view/463671/s5/72f3da17-b150-4367-ba6b-7e12733ca3b9/72f3da17-b150-4367-ba6b-7e12733ca3b9/) - [20200818 Morning Pages for 18 Aug 2020](evernote:///view/463671/s5/94a85a73-3630-41b5-96c8-2fa3aa7fee16/94a85a73-3630-41b5-96c8-2fa3aa7fee16/) --- [[06-10-2022]] - Thinking how [[Index for Spirituality]], can cushion/reduce/heal/interacts with the effect of Shame. - Shame and Guilt seems to be a familiar theme/feeling in Christiainity. Adam and Even hid from God in the Garden of Eden; hidding being a pattern of behavior for shame. Hidding, keeping secrets [[202103082057 Secrets create emotional distance.]] | [[202103082054 Keeping secrets causes sickness]] - What is the Christian solution to reduce shame?