# 20200705 : Chapter 2: I feel really confused - More than miracles 20200526 : [[Book - More than Miracles]] [[020.300 Solution Focused MOC]] #solution-focus **Source:** * More than Miracles: The State of the Art of Solution-Focused Brief Therapy * Google Book * R202005131014: Solution Focused Index Page **Backward:** 20200526 : Book Notes "more than miracles" Forward: Cross reference: * R202005131014: Solution Focused Index Page * 202007041046 : Pragamatic approach, Pragmatism * 20200705: Chapter 3. The Miracle Questions - More than miracles. ## Chapter 2. I feel really confused. * - so far there is a lot of questions, reflective questions, to invite client to think about “how did they make that decision, make that first move,” * - lots of emphasising on the client own decision making, agencies, them making that decisions. “how did they do that?" * - how did they know that? how did that come about? * — Wittgenstein — Who is he? * — Clarify what the client mean when they used a word, because different people have different meaning, we don’t want to assume. * The powerful word of “Instead” - revealing lots of things * — incorporating relational, perspective taking questions help the client shift position.. because often they are stuck, do not know , but they can describe what others would notice of them? * Page 27 * Ask clients to visualise how life would be like at that number they identified. * What are the examples of past good decisions/past successes? * Summarise, the essence, compliment, and share inner thoughts of counsellor, * In this case, the counsellor did not make a decision for client even though we know it’s bad, the client have to make decision for themselves, but they suggest not rushing until client feel sure. * Ask client to take note of small signs that signal they are moving forward in the scale. The impact of creating alternate realities for clients, * Reading about the case of client with drugs, and destructive relationship with paul, use of drugs, and her “attachment issues, past betrayal by father” and self cutting - makes me feel irk and no patience to work with client like this. But i think, (1) yes judgement, (2) but also felt that responsibility to “fix” the client shouldn’t be me, (3) focus on the session, to session, it is ultimately clients life!