# Secrets create emotional distance. [[08-03-2021]] Source [[Book Notes from The Velvet Rage]] Chapter 14. Skills for Living an authentic life > Relationships Skills **Live in integrity** - Always strive to be as honest as possible. - Secrets create emotional distance. - The fact that you know something creates effect on you and behavior. - It erodes trust in yourself and in your relationship; if i can keep a secret, he can also keep secrets from me. - Honesty is not expressing impulsive feelings in the moment, because feelings can change. It is about observable facts and enduring feelings that are consistent over time. - Honesty help the recipient to stay more connected with reality, with FACTS. Cross Link - [[202103082054 Keeping secrets causes sickness]]