# Book Notes - Think Again. by Adam Grant #Cognitive_Distortion #thinking #Biases #self-development [[Books Index]] [[010 Self Development Index]] Source: https://play.google.com/books/reader?id=yaAkKwAAAEAJ [[15-07-2021]] ## Part 1: Individual Rethinking. Updating our own views ### Chapter 1 **Think like a scientist.** We all think from different modes, as if different roles. We may think like a Preacher who is preaching our way is the right way, Prosecutor (critizing others' opinion and views), Politician (Who just want people to agree with us, regardless of the truth) or Scientist (Scientist look for evidence to disprove their theory). ### Chapter 2 Remember that we all have blind spots. People with expertise sometimes have "imposter syndrome", which is not bad, it keep us humble and open to doubt our ideas. While people without expertise but only confidence can develop "arm chair quarterback" syndrome; they think they know more than they do. That is the Dunning-kruger effect; The people with the least competent belIeve that they are the best -Develop Confident Humility -- Confident in your ability, but do not be attached to the ideas, tools, what you know for now, because it can always change. ### Chapter 3 - The joy of being wrong. - Attachment - do not be attach to the Past ME. Your past does not fixed who you should be. - We can be identify with VALUES but not BELIEF. - I may value Fairness, Correctness, etc that is what identify me. But not my belief.. e.g only certain people can be right. Because belief can change. - The more you find out that you are wrong, the more correct you will be. ### Chapter 4 - The psychology of constructive conflict. - DEBATE about the ideas. Debate about the "HOW" not the "WHY" - Task conflict - High performance groups have low personal conflict, but higher task conflict. - Parenting style - We tend to shield children from seeing adults disagree and have conflict. - "*The problem starts early: parents disagree behind closed doors, fearing that conflict will make children anxious or somehow damage their character. Yet research shows that how often parents argue has no bearing on their children’s academic, social, or emotional development. What matters is how respectfully parents argue, not how frequently. Kids whose parents clash constructively feel more emotionally safe in elementary school, and over the next few years they actually demonstrate more helpfulness and compassion toward their classmates*". - Agreeableness - is the value of wanting people to be harmony. - Misfits, disagreeable people, dissatisfaction promotes creativity. misFit add value when there are strong bonds with their colleagues. - Look for disagreeable people who are givers, they are best critic to elevate work, not to feed egos. - We can get HOT without Getting mad: "Start the disagreement by asking "can we debate?" - think like a scientist. - Argue not WHY he was right, but HOW it is right. ## PART 2 : Interpersonal Rethinking. Opening other people's mind