COARSE NOTE C202003052054: Differentiation, and sense of self. Mother withdraw. father intrude. Source: * Book Note for Father Hunger (James Herzog) Backward: Forward: Cross reference: * C202003052037: Father role on emotional regulation. Help child resolve mother-child symbiosis Notes: * Mother and child begin as one. Father must intrude, mother must withdraw and differentiate. * page 56 “Man and woman, father and mother may assume distinguishable protopositions with regard to the initial mode of both regarding and relating to the infant. The mother’s initial stance is one of already being with and, in some sense, in. She perhaps needs to withdraw a little so as to establish a way of differentiating between inside and outside and conveying to her child something about the salience of the outside for the inside. But she begins from a sense of already being inside. * The father, on the other hand, needs to find a point and mode of entry into both the mother-infant dyad and his child’s inner world. He must find the right spot to touch and needs to learn something of the inherent sensitivity and sensibility of his child……" * Page 56 “Just as the mother must, in a sense, withdraw, he must, in a sense, intrude, penetrate ” - The father hunger, exploration with adults and children, 2001. Keywords: fatherhood, father, Mother, Relationship, infant, psychodynamic