**20200910: [[Systemic Thinking]] Group [[supervision]] 10 Sep 2020** INTRODUCTION 85 years old Chinese female. Married with children but estrange relationships. Live with friend Diagnosed with depression CURIOSITIES 1. How to help her? What kind of help does she wants/need? 2. Are issues faced by a 85 year old, similar or different to our usual clientele? 1. Loneliness 2. Meaning of life: 1. Regrets? Accomplishment (what can I be proud of?) 3. Anxieties, worries about … health, death, who will take care of me? 3. What is the narrative of her life? What’s her back story? Will connecting to those past be helpful? Personal feelings / reflections 1. I am friendly with old people. 2. Confucius values, my family of origin: Take care of the old, respect your elders, etc. 1. I feel like I should give them attentions. If not, so poor thing, no one care about them. 3. Old people = weak, vulnerable, and helpless (Well, perhaps not all the time!) 4. Yes, I also worry that I will be weak and frail when I am old. Will I also be in a nursing home? 5. I don’t agree with nursing homes. So cruel! 6. Yes, I know, she is not my Grandma Intentions 1. “Every encounter can be therapeutic” - I hope to give her a therapeutic experience, to be “life giving” 2. Want to see her more than a “case”, “a lodger” - I want to hear her story. (Because who else hear her story? If I give attentions, it can be healing) 3. Let her tell us what she want for herself? Discuss together.