# 202103082113 Building Shame Resilience #EmotionalFirstAidKit #shame - [[202103082110 How to overcome shame?]] #### The four elements of shame resilience 1. **Recognizing shame and understanding its triggers** - Shame is biology and biography. Can you physically recognize when you're in the grips of shame, feel your way through it, and figure out what messages and expectations triggered it? 2. **Practice Critical Awareness.** Can you reality-check the messages and expectations that are driving your shame? Are you realistic? Attainable? Are they what you want to be or what you think others need/want from you? 3. **Reaching Out.** Are you owning and sharing your story? We can't experience empathy if we are not connecting. 4. **Speaking Shame.** Are you talking about how you feel and asking for what you need when you feel shame? Source [[Daring Greatly How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead]]