**COARSE NOTE** **C20200425: Book notes: Bullying. The child's view** [[Bully]] [[Bullying]] [[C20200425 What are the impact of bullying]] Source: - Book [Book. Bullying. The child's view](evernote:///view/463671/s5/28d6e842-24be-4819-b13b-0d78b4a4feb6/28d6e842-24be-4819-b13b-0d78b4a4feb6/) Backward: Forward:  Cross reference: - [R20200425: Topic related to Child Abuse, Trauma, Bully](evernote:///view/463671/s5/a4fa63f2-fc71-4780-9243-00f0e785365c/a4fa63f2-fc71-4780-9243-00f0e785365c/) - [20200715 supervision systemic juliana](evernote:///view/463671/s5/8271505d-fe58-4860-ab99-578574fd328b/8271505d-fe58-4860-ab99-578574fd328b/)  - Client experience shame, for failure to meet expectations  Notes: Keywords: - Adult intervention maybe inept or inadequate, but it can be effective and children often need adult help. If help is offered early and with insight, it may involve little effort for the adult and much relief for the child. **What bullying means to children** - Feeling powerless,  - isolated - No allies - Bullying is a demonstration of superior power. (Age, size, number of people)  - Shame - internalised, reason to attract bully - Bullying as a punishment for breach of loyalty - Not conforming to group norms, out group being target for bullying