C20200826: How to help client to regulate their emotion **26 Aug 2020** Audrey asked If I have notes related to helping client to regulate their emotions, or how can we as therapist “contain them” when they are emotional.  --- - [Leslie S. Greenberg - Emotion-focused Therapy_ Coaching Clients to Work Through Their Feelings-American Psychological Association (APA) (2015).pdf](evernote:///view/463671/s5/e3988c3d-bf65-4d0d-8840-7d58cf07d14d/e3988c3d-bf65-4d0d-8840-7d58cf07d14d/) - This is a whole book about Emotion-Focused Therapy  - [Emotion Focus Therapy - Book Notes](evernote:///view/463671/s5/7b4cee4d-723d-4ada-95b3-155f8ea81005/7b4cee4d-723d-4ada-95b3-155f8ea81005/) - Facilitation of therapeutic work on emotion.  - =="Emotions are not changed by talking about it, understanding origins, or changing beliefs. But by accepting and experiencing them, by juxtaposing them with different emotions to transform them, by reflecting on them to create new narrative meaning."== - _“Our sense of security develops when we can, with others help, regulate our affect, and weave a coherent account of our emotional experience with others. When we become narrators of our own stories, we produce a selfhood that joins us with others and permits us to look back to our past, and shape ourselves for the possibilities of an imagined future."_ - _* We cannot not create meaning. Searching for meaning is a form of happiness._  - _* “Individuals who lose the ability to construct narrative lose their selves”._  - _* EMOTIONS drives you. The Need to create meaning is secondary motivation._ - _Start to see emotion as adaptive resource and a meaning system, not something to get rid, or change, or reason away with._ - _To deal effectively with emotions, people need to be able to identify on each occasion what type of emotion is being experienced, and to determine the best way of dealing with this emotion in this situation._ - [5 Steps To Help Kids Learn To Control Their Emotions](evernote:///view/463671/s5/9c2676c5-3eef-4089-8155-4ccbe9b562e2/9c2676c5-3eef-4089-8155-4ccbe9b562e2/) - This may be relevant when client’s emotional age may be of a child.  - When a child is having a “meltdown”, what can we as adults/parents do? How do we help them? - [C202005142034 : How does parental figures help child regulate their emotions?](evernote:///view/463671/s5/7a272829-a3c2-405d-8bd8-af43da54731e/7a272829-a3c2-405d-8bd8-af43da54731e/) - Strong emotions are not bad. Teach them how to set boundaries/limit through modelling. To trust themselves - **Notes -** Child depend on parents (attachment figures) external source to regulate their emotions. From there, they learn how to do it themselves.  - [C202005141326: What are the function of ego?](evernote:///view/463671/s5/aa7ff954-fa28-4ce3-beec-40a34fa4963b/aa7ff954-fa28-4ce3-beec-40a34fa4963b/) - From a psychodynamic perspective, client’s weakness in regulating their emotions is a sign of their “weak ego function”. How can we help them increase ego strength? - **What are the ego functions?**  - Reality Testing (protect us from external world) - Judgement (protect us from external world) - Capacity for relationships (protect us from external world) - Stimulus Regulation (protect us from external world) - Affect/Anxiety Tolerance (protect us from internal world) - Impulse Control (protect us from internal world) - Capacity for Play, - Self-awareness, - Self-esteem regulation, (protect us from internal world) - Cognitive functions, (protect us from internal world) - Defenses (protect us from internal world) - Juliana sessions with mention of “emotional" - [Systemic Group Supervision - Astelle presented](evernote:///view/463671/s5/0d4aa799-f194-4846-930a-a39c933c6f9b/0d4aa799-f194-4846-930a-a39c933c6f9b/) - [C202003130819: Systemic Group Supervision on 12 March 2020](evernote:///view/463671/s5/9dc4401f-170b-42ee-96dc-29466195d4ac/9dc4401f-170b-42ee-96dc-29466195d4ac/) - She shared the concept of shame and guilt, [https://moseshng.wordpress.com/2020/08/19/shame-and-guilt-how-to-help/](https://moseshng.wordpress.com/2020/08/19/shame-and-guilt-how-to-help/)  - Emotional attunement  - Related to attachment theories, how the adult attuned to the child, and the child learn how to label, regulate their own emotion.  - If no one taught them, they may not know how to do it.