Source [[Book - No bad Parts]] Related to [[Book Self Under Siege]] - *This idea of differentiation; separating out what is mine and what is not mine. All are mine.* --- # Steps to work with Parts? Being a parent to ourselves, we become secure attachment figures to Parts. [[Attachment Theory]] 1. Connect with Parts that lash out; who are the protectors/Parts? 1*. -- Reminded me of [[Book - Rollo May - The Meaning of Anxiety]] - Perhaps one Part of me is anxious.* 2. What Parts may stop us from getting close to even knowing? (Protector) 3. Invite them and identify the Parts in me. 4. Ask permission from protectors before approaching. 5. Invite the protector to wait in another space (in another room) while you approach the Exile When approaching the Exile 1. Build rapport, trust, validate. 2. What does the Part need before bringing them to a good place (real or imagined) 3. attend to the feelings, emotions 4. Gently ask what the Part needs to unload to Unburden? What are they carrying and holding on? Invite the Protector to join us 1. Invite the protector to join us, to witness, what do they think about the Part( exile) 2. What would they want to do now? how do they feel? Continue to connect and check in on them