# What stop happiness? #[[Happiness MOC]] #[[psychotherapy]] #self-development ## **Barriers to [[Happiness MOC]] / Common sources of self-sabotage** Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/fixing-families/201901/when-you-feel-you-dont-deserve-be-happy 1. **Past sins** - they are paying penance for past sins ([[guilt]]) 2. **Survivor's [[guilt]]** - 3.** [[🏠 Trauma]]** - e.g abused victim feel they are unworthy, they are flawed. Emotional scars. 4. **Parental worry** - Worrying for their child 5. **Critical Self-image** - "If [[Happiness MOC]] based on who you are, and who you are is based on what you do, then everything has to be perfect, then your successes are rare." Perfectionistic, critical, abusive childhoods? 6. **Feeling guilty if you're happy** - when you are unhappy for a long time, feeling moments of [[Happiness MOC]] can elicit feeling of [[guilt]] and anxiety. [[guilt]]